Evaluate Your Relationship
Please use the questionnaire below to evaluate your relationship with your partner. The more questions you answer with “yes”, the higher the likelihood that you may be in an abusive relationship.
Your Thoughts and Feelings
Do you:
- often feel afraid of your partner?
- avoid certain topics because they might make your partner angry?
- feel that nothing you do is ever good enough and that your partner constantly criticises you?
- believe that you deserve this kind of behaviour?
- feel emotionally broken or helpless?
Humiliating Behaviour by Your Partner
Does your partner:
- humiliate you or shout at you?
- constantly criticise you?
- treat you in ways that make you feel ashamed in front of family or friends?
- ignore your opinions and achievements?
- blame you for their violent behaviour?
- treat you as if you are property or an object, rather than a human being?
Violent Behaviour and Threats by Your Partner
Does your partner:
- behave unpredictably or aggressively?
- physically harm you or threaten to injure or kill you?
- threaten to kidnap or take away your children?
- threaten to commit suicide if you leave them?
- force you to have sex?
- damage or destroy your belongings?
Controlling Behaviour by Your Partner
Does your partner:
- display extreme jealousy or possessiveness?
- monitor where you go and what you do?
- limit your ability to see family or friends?
- restrict your access to money, your phone, or your car?
- constantly text, call, or follow you when you’re apart?
If many of your answers are “yes”, please consider seeking support from a trusted professional or organisation. You are not alone, and help is available.
Source: Adapted from a questionnaire by HelpGuide.org
